Seemingly frustrated with the time Spence was taking to take a throw-in in the Championship play-off semi-final, the Blades boss picked up the ball before shoving it into the lower part of the Forest full-back's stomach.
It sparked an almighty melee by the touchline between both sets of players with the Forest faithful calling for Heckingbottom to be sent off.
Referee Michael Oliver deemed a yellow card as the appropriate punishment, something that didn't sit well with talkSPORT's Adrian Clarke.
"That was a disgrace from Heckingbottom… he's lucky to not be sent off," Clarke said on commentary for talkSPORT.
"I've seen managers get sent off for a lot less… Michael Oliver has been generous to Heckingbottom."
"You can't be physical with a player, you just can't… Michael Oliver let him off the hook," Clarke added at half time.
Heckingbottom's frustration no doubt came as a result of his side being two goals down on aggregate in the semi-final tie.
Having lost the first leg at Bramall Lane 2-1, Sheffield United got off to a bad start at the County ground as Forest took the lead on 19 minutes.
The goal was scored by Brennan Johnson, who finished first-time as he latched onto Sam Surridge's low cross from the left.
However, Heckingbottom's side hit back right at the start of the second half as Morgan Gibbs-White levelled the scores on the night.
The winner of the tie will face Huddersfield, who got the better of Luton, in the play-off final at Wembley on May 29.